Well let me just say, I am so grateful for new brakes, and new tires, cause with out them, I sure as hell would have been in the ditch. MAN OH MAN, all I can say is, I swear I’m going in the ditch one of these days. Over here in the good’ol miswest, it’s been awfully cold, and awfully snowy. I live up in northern Wisconsin, and we get a great deal of snow. Well it snowed and the plows went through, but really only packed down all the snow in the country, well I live in town, but I have to drive 10 miles out of town to bring Ry to day care. So I dropped her off at day care, and was on my way to school, this is a very curvy road, so I’m going like 20 possible 30 but whatever, I was going the speed limit for the conditions, and I got around the curve at about 15 and I swear I almost went into the ditch, my front tires caught the poofy snow, and my back tires went in and out of the snow to the road, it was crazy. I was so scare, and so gratefully Ry was not in the car with me. Man, now I know to drive better!!! 🙂
How about some ditch?
December 22nd, 2008Oops or not, we love them dearly!
December 19th, 2008Out of my 5 pregnancies, only the last one was really “planned” (and it was so difficult to get and stay pregnant that the experience was all-consuming for over a year!) . The two before that were kind of “let’s see what happens” and the 2nd one was an “I would like a baby at some point so I’m choosing not to use birth control” and the 1st one was a birth control failure.
Do I love my kids any differently? No, I love them both. Actually I feel I even have a bit of a stronger bond with my daughter (my first) because I was a single mom with her for 2 years and we were all each other had for that first little while. We went through a lot together and we’ve come a long way.
Expressing this to my daughter, now entering her preteen years, is a different matter though!
She has started pulling the “You didn’t even want me, I was an accident” card and as much as I try to reassure her that I am glad I had her, I don’t want to lie.
It’s true, I did take pills specifically for the sole purpose of preventing her existence! I can’t deny that. I can’t pretend that at 17 years old, I said to myself “Hey, a baby would be great right now!” But that doesn’t mean I love her any less now that she’s here! In fact, I’ve really empathized to her that she must have been “meant to be”.
My daughter has changed my life in so many ways, and mostly for the better. I still went to university, even if it was a year late. I still started off a good career. I still found a spouse I fell in love with and wanted to spend the rest of my life with and who accepted her as a child of his own with no biological ties.
And I’ve tried expressing to her that without being made a mommy at 18, I would have never created YoungMommies.com and helped any of those women who have come to the site and groups for support. Her reply was “well, someone else would have made it” and I’m sure that’s true, but it wouldn’t be the same.
Once I decided for sure that I did NOT want to have an abortion, I made a full commitment to be the best parent I could be. And I’ve loved her like crazy even before she was born.
And I hope that even though right now she feels less wanted because of how she came to be, that she understands someday how much she was needed and how much she was loved.
moms networking?
December 11th, 2008So with the crazy pace that things are changing, with all our social media tools out there, will networking between moms become easier? Will we be able to connect with other women like us and will we be able to take it beyond just supporting each other in an emotional sense?
I’m on the lookout for women’s businesses to support, like buying Christmas gifts from home-based businesses instead of at the “big box stores”. Maybe I should start looking at Etsy, there seems to be a lot out there. I received my order today from Mabel’s Labels and am super pleased. Maybe YM can do a fundraiser with them next year?
Another topic for discussion – what about websites for women run by men? I have big issues with this. I saw a local website recently and out of curiosity checked out their forums but when I saw the Admin posting (with a pic of *himself*), I was totally turned off immediately. I have similar concerns about sites like iVillage and the brand new Momversations.com – who’s behind the wheel? Who is truly benefiting from this?
I guess I’m more of a grass-roots girl myself, but I fear that the social media & networking advantages we have today may just get turned into yet another money-maker for “the man” and will use women’s needs and internet usage for their own benefit – much like advertising brands prey on women’s insecurities.
How can we use the internet to make sure all of women’s energy (as we blog and post and network and support each other) comes back to help ourselves in the long run??
Welcome!
December 3rd, 2008The Blogging Mommy is Sylvia (18)
Her Kiddos are Rylee Anne (almost 11 months)
Her location is Antigo, Wisconsin, in other words, the middle of no whereville
How old are you now and how old are your munchkins? I was 17 years old when I had Rylee, I am now 18.
If you could describe your child in 3 words what would they be? I’d say, funny, sweet, and energetic.
What’s an average day like for you these days? On school days, I wake up around 6 get in the shower, get ready. I’ll then wake up Rylee get her dressed and feed, then out the door we are to day care. While she’s at daycare I go to school as a seniory in high school. Once I get out of school I pick her up than we spend the rest of our day at home. Have dinner around 6 than bath time than bed!
If you had a day all to yourself (kid free & lottery financed) how would you spend it? I would so go to the spa, and try to go shopping. I never get time to myself so I would love to just go to the spa and relax!
What would you say your parenting style is like? I’d say I’m a pretty laid back parent for now. I say no when I have too, but only ever than. I’m sure once she gets older I’ll probably be as laid back as I can be, as long as she stays out of trouble.
What do you feel you have enough of in life? What do you want more of? Less of? I think I have enough love in my life, I have a very supportive family, my family is so loving and helpful. I don’t know what I would do with out them.
How “blended” is your family? Are you still with the dad of your kids? Who has whose last name? My last name and Rylee’s last names are different. She has her fathers last name, and I do not. But if we get married one day I will.
What are some of your pet peeves? Oh pet peeves, I really hate when people try to convince me I’m a bad parent because of my age. Age is nothing but a number, and I am very mature, and take responsiblity for my actions.
What are the most unique things about yourself? I am way more mature than most 18 year old girls. I take full responsiblity for every thing I’ve done, and I plan to keep it that way. Even before I had a baby I was very responsible.
And finally, what’s your writing/blogging style? When I write, I kind of just ramble on and on and on. But whatever.
