March Break / Spring Break

March 16th, 2011

Well it’s a whirlwind at our house (as usual) and I know I haven’t checked in for a while (we’ve been sick) but I wanted to chat a little about March Break and what kind of activities you mommies did with your kids. What kind of child care do you rely on when they are not in school and what kind of activities do you sign them up for? For those of you with younger tots, this is something you’re about to get tossed into, so listen to what the older mommies suggest! lol πŸ˜‰

I had been *really* stressed out about this coming week for basically all of 2011 to date!!! But it has gone really well so far. We had planned to send DS to the same camp as last year and now that he is older he could go to the full day option instead of just the half day for preschoolers. I called only last week to register (I know, a bit late) but luckily they had space. Luckily I had done my research and knew there was a discount for putting a camper in for the full week because the administrator distractedly tried to just charge me the daily rate x5! No thanks! My son *loves* the camp to bits. I tried to pick him up early on the first day and he would have none of that: “But it’s not pick up TIME, Mom!” and he sent me away.

As for my (much-older) DD, she wanted nothing to do with any camp. My DH joked that any idea coming from us, even if we could find a “sit around and go on Facebook and text your friends from your cell phone all day” camp somewhere, she would refuse to go just on the principle that it had been suggested by her parents. We are that hated and horrible these days. I offered her many many options including a babysitting course (you’d think the chance of making cash of her own this summer would be enticing! but no…), singing lessons, Hip Hop camp, dance camp, gmynastics camp (with or without her little bro), you name it – we researched it. But no, she insisted she wouldn’t have enough time to spend with friends or go shopping even if she were enrolled in a half-day program. And without her grand-parents to back me up (who had her more than half the week), I knew it was a fight I couldn’t win. If they were the ones having to drag her out of bed, you can be sure they would be saying “Don’t blame me, blame your big bad mommy who is making us all go through this camp thing” (have I mentioned this are my ex’s parents? her bio-dad’s folks? oh yes, it’s fun…).

But I did have a (small) victory this week… I suggested one morning that we go for a manicure at a local spa. “Invite a friend” I said, “My treat!”. She insisted everyone was busy, she wouldn’t be able to find anyone, blah blah blah. I asked her to put out a note online and on her texts and sure enough, there was a friend who was able to come along. So as usual, she ended up having a great time getting her nails done with her friend (and getting a Frappucino and having a leisurely chat session at the coffee shop) and it killed many hours during which she was not just moping around in her pyjamas bored.

Once the spring break is over for us, DD will go back to her dance lessons and we intend to put DS into gymnastics at the same place he’s done these camps a couple years in a row! They’re also both signed up for soccer this summer. We’ve had different sets of grand-parents help out with the “funding” of these activities because they can definitely get pricey, but I would definitely say it’s worth it. I started when the kids are young with little swim lessons and things like that (as babies, you go in the pool with them and then starting from around age 3, they go on their own) and it’s great to have one or two activities to keep them active during the week, especially when at least one of those extra-curricular activities is a sport or other physical activity.

So I suspect if the Question of the Month for March Roll Call on the YM Boards is about Spring Break, I can now just link over here! lol πŸ˜‰ but either way, I’d love to also see some comments over here too from YM mommies and others… what do you usually do for March Break? What activities have you found to be good ideas for your kids during the year? What about summer? How do you keep them from being bored during the holidays?

YM Blogs Contest!

July 19th, 2010

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AUG20: This contest is now closed! Click here to find out the results of who won! πŸ™‚
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I’m happy to announce our first contest here on YoungMommies.com! Who knew it would take 10 years, I guess we are behind the curve and just focused on hanging out together more than promoting our site. But we gotta get some energy and publicity infused, so here we go! πŸ™‚

This contest is the first of 12 great monthly contests, the first prize of each one being a brand new copy of “What to Expect When You’re Expecting”!

Summer Fun Prize Pack for the YoungMommies.com contest!

We’ll choose a different runner-up prize as well for some contest. This month’s runner up is a fun Summer Prize Pack, including a pack of inflatable beach balls, a portable cloth bag (with a little Canadian pride, whether you live here or not, I figure it’s a fun extra!), a couple packs of Trident fruit layers gum, and a lightweight kids’ stainless steel water bottle to tote to and from the beach and other summer activities.

Summer Fun Prize Pack for the YoungMommies.com contest!

This month’s contest will be all about the YM Blogs and getting them rolling again. We have some new mommies joining us as Authors and will have some new posts up for you to comment on. The Contest will be open to both Authors AND commenters, so if you’re interested in becoming a contributor to the Blogs, you can find out how on the YMBoards (register to become a member). The only requirement is that you be a young/teen mom or young/teen mom-to-b*e!

The contest will run for one month. So please make sure you add your posts and make your comments before the end of the day on Thursday August 19th. On the 20th, we’ll draw the names of both the winners. One of the winners will be chosen based on the number of entries (both posts on the Blogs and comments combined) and the other winner will be chosen randomly from the number of valid entries**.

Please let all the young moms you know about this contest, as it’s open to any young mom, NOT just the ones that are already members of the site! πŸ™‚

See below for definitions of who may enter and what is considered a valid entry and enjoy the contest!!!

* Contest participants: You must must MUST be a young/teen mom or young/teen mommy to be. If you’re not already a member of the YM Boards and/or you haven’t posted a Salute, you’ll need to do so to show that you’re in fact who you say you are. I’m sorry for this extra loophole but I don’t want just anyone to be able to crash the contest and defeat the entire purpose of our site which is helping young mommies!!!

** Valid entries: To be sure we know your entry is valid (and not a spambot!), you’ll need to include some info relevant to the blog post and/or the YM Contest. So if the topic of the post is about a young mom who’s having issues with a baby dad, you can comment something about your own experience with that topic or express your sympathy for the moms going through that situation or at the very least expressing how you enjoyed the post and writing and your hopes for winning the contest.

The Fight Against Fakers

July 31st, 2009

Have you heard about the person who faked her baby’s death?!

Here’s an article on the topic… I was sad and upset to hear about it, but unfortunately, not terribly surprised!

Over my past 10 years running communities and groups online, I’ve seen more fakers and lurkers and weirdos out there than I care to remember!!

We do get to enjoy meeting new friends and forge some wonderfully close relationships with our online mommy crew, but the darker side of the internet is waiting as well.

In the Young Single Mommies Community, we occasionally had a male member try to join to hit on some of the single women in the group. One time in the YM Community, we had a young women join and we found the link to her blog. It talked about soccer and her social life and everything except the pregnancy she was telling us all about (and included pictures of a slim young woman… hmmm, I find it hard to believe you are 7 months pregnant?!).

In the YM Boards, we have had more than our share of fakers, including one young woman who stole photos of her sister and nephew and assumed their identity. She tried to defend her lying because she had been pregnant herself but had lost the baby. While this is a sad situation, it still doesn’t excuse convincing a few dozen women that you are a real mom of a baby and wasting our time with questions and stories that turn out to be lies.

No wonder we’ve developed so much security and rules to try to protect those of us who *are* real mothers and are just trying to find support and advice. For example, on the YM Boards, we now post “Salutes” (pictures of us and our children that include proof of the date) to gain access to more personal forums and member photos.

What motivates young women to pretend to be teen moms? Is it a perception that it is “cool” to be a pregnant teen? Is it a way for girls to try out the experience of being 16 and pregnant without having to actually go through the reality of it all?

What do you think??

Tips for posting pics online

April 29th, 2009

Although sharing photos of your kids is easier than even thanks to photo-sharing websites, social networking sites, and online galleries, it also means that it’s easier for everyone to access your pictures (including some people you may not want to share them with).

Here are a few tips to think about when you’re posting pictures online:

1. Know your audience. Think about who will have access to the pictures. Check the privacy settings of your album – are you opening it up to friends and family, to a site or board of a limited number of members, or to the whole internet?
2. Protect your identity. Watermark your photos with your name, e-mail, or other ID. This can make it less tempting for a faker to try to pass them off as their own.
3. Choose carefully. Only share a limited amount of pictures and be aware of what information is on them. Even with a strategically-placed facecloth, that cute picture of your child in the bath could be used for purposes you really didn’t intend.
4. Maintain control. Try to make sure your pictures are stored in a place where you have (and will continue to have) access to them. Be aware of any rights you may be transferring over when you submit a picture to another site (e.g. baby contest).

I’ve posted some more specific tips for pics on the YM Boards as well!

Keep those pics coming, but keep them as protected as you can. πŸ™‚