I am so tired of hearing young moms complain about how much they have had to give up and how much their life sucks. If your child is not enough to make you happy then what is. Look into that beautiful face and tell me that you don’t smile. Yea I may wish I could go out more and do more things a normal 20 year old would do but guess what I AM NOT A NORMAL 20 YEAR OLD AND YOU ARE NOT A NORMAL YOUNG PERSON WHEN YOU HAVE A CHILD GET OVER IT!! I understand that its aggravating sometimes. I have been diagnosed with Anxiety and Postpartum Depression ever since I had Amber so I have my moments but as soon as I look into my beautiful girls’ faces i cannot help but smile. They keep me going through each day and they have made me the person I am today. If you cannot say the same or something similar then you need to sit down and reevaluate yourself. I’m sorry if I offend anyone on here, that is not my reasoning for writing this but I have some acquaintances that do not stop whining about being a young mom. YOU made the choice to have a baby at the age you did NOT society so stop blaming anything and everything else.
Ridiculous Young Mommies
February 9th, 2011Meeting Victoria
July 30th, 2010I will never forget the time I met Victoria… Specially because I was so nervious, it was like I had never seen or been around a child before!
Phill and I had been seriously dating for over 6 months, and she was just over 13 months old. We had discussed this over for hours and hours and hours! I was really looking forward to meeting her, almost from the start, but Phillip had a thousand reservations! (that I must confess I didn’t really understand at the moment, but now I see his point). We met at his house, and I remember being so nervious my hand were damp with sweat!! I kept dropping everything I was holding… She just kind of ignored me at first, and hung on to Phill for dear life!, and I remember thinking “Oh God, this s going to be a disaster!”. The first time I tried to hold her she started crying. Later we started playing with some cardboard boxes, and the Phill yelled at me cause he was planning to use them!, then we decided to get some lunch and she wouldn’t take anything! So Phill got all frustrated and said that we better went home… At this point I almost felt like crying myself! and the thing is, I’m usually so good with kids! I adore them and they adore me!. Thankfully little by little she started reaching out to me, letting me tickle her, and by the end of the afternoon she’d even let me hold her! but still, I was SO awkward with her! it was embarassing! you’d think I had never been around babies before! Not knowing what to do, how to talk to her, how to calm her down… I really thought Phill was going to come up to me any minute and say “You know what, I don’t think this is going to work” (I’m SO glad he didn’t obviously!)
That’s when it hit me! all the pressure I was putting on myself, because this wasn’t just some kid, just another friend’s child… This is the daughter of the man I love! and if everything turned out the way we wanted to, she was going to be my family! My step DAUGHTER! yikes! and you can imagine what a shock that was to me at first… I remember when we said good bye I patted her awkwardly on the head and didn’t even kiss Phillip, I was so out of my element!
Then I thought, if I want this child to be my family, I had better start treating her like family! and that made a world of difference! the next time we met like 2 weeks after that we really started bonding! we went for ice cream, I made her laugh, she made a mess of my dress and broke my necklace, you know, the whole thing! hahaha! But I’m glad to say we’ve been friends ever since. =)
The Fight Against Fakers
July 31st, 2009Have you heard about the person who faked her baby’s death?!
Here’s an article on the topic… I was sad and upset to hear about it, but unfortunately, not terribly surprised!
Over my past 10 years running communities and groups online, I’ve seen more fakers and lurkers and weirdos out there than I care to remember!!
We do get to enjoy meeting new friends and forge some wonderfully close relationships with our online mommy crew, but the darker side of the internet is waiting as well.
In the Young Single Mommies Community, we occasionally had a male member try to join to hit on some of the single women in the group. One time in the YM Community, we had a young women join and we found the link to her blog. It talked about soccer and her social life and everything except the pregnancy she was telling us all about (and included pictures of a slim young woman… hmmm, I find it hard to believe you are 7 months pregnant?!).
In the YM Boards, we have had more than our share of fakers, including one young woman who stole photos of her sister and nephew and assumed their identity. She tried to defend her lying because she had been pregnant herself but had lost the baby. While this is a sad situation, it still doesn’t excuse convincing a few dozen women that you are a real mom of a baby and wasting our time with questions and stories that turn out to be lies.
No wonder we’ve developed so much security and rules to try to protect those of us who *are* real mothers and are just trying to find support and advice. For example, on the YM Boards, we now post “Salutes” (pictures of us and our children that include proof of the date) to gain access to more personal forums and member photos.
What motivates young women to pretend to be teen moms? Is it a perception that it is “cool” to be a pregnant teen? Is it a way for girls to try out the experience of being 16 and pregnant without having to actually go through the reality of it all?
What do you think??
YM Blogs Contest!
July 19th, 2010 . Posted in blogging/internet, by Kris, Links on YM, teen pregnancy & parenting | 1 Comment »Tags: blogging, blogs, commenters, contest, entries, free, freebies, post-off, posters, teen moms, WIN, winning, young mommies, young moms
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AUG20: This contest is now closed! Click here to find out the results of who won! 🙂
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I’m happy to announce our first contest here on YoungMommies.com! Who knew it would take 10 years, I guess we are behind the curve and just focused on hanging out together more than promoting our site. But we gotta get some energy and publicity infused, so here we go! 🙂
This contest is the first of 12 great monthly contests, the first prize of each one being a brand new copy of “What to Expect When You’re Expecting”!
We’ll choose a different runner-up prize as well for some contest. This month’s runner up is a fun Summer Prize Pack, including a pack of inflatable beach balls, a portable cloth bag (with a little Canadian pride, whether you live here or not, I figure it’s a fun extra!), a couple packs of Trident fruit layers gum, and a lightweight kids’ stainless steel water bottle to tote to and from the beach and other summer activities.
This month’s contest will be all about the YM Blogs and getting them rolling again. We have some new mommies joining us as Authors and will have some new posts up for you to comment on. The Contest will be open to both Authors AND commenters, so if you’re interested in becoming a contributor to the Blogs, you can find out how on the YMBoards (register to become a member). The only requirement is that you be a young/teen mom or young/teen mom-to-b*e!
The contest will run for one month. So please make sure you add your posts and make your comments before the end of the day on Thursday August 19th. On the 20th, we’ll draw the names of both the winners. One of the winners will be chosen based on the number of entries (both posts on the Blogs and comments combined) and the other winner will be chosen randomly from the number of valid entries**.
Please let all the young moms you know about this contest, as it’s open to any young mom, NOT just the ones that are already members of the site! 🙂
See below for definitions of who may enter and what is considered a valid entry and enjoy the contest!!!
* Contest participants: You must must MUST be a young/teen mom or young/teen mommy to be. If you’re not already a member of the YM Boards and/or you haven’t posted a Salute, you’ll need to do so to show that you’re in fact who you say you are. I’m sorry for this extra loophole but I don’t want just anyone to be able to crash the contest and defeat the entire purpose of our site which is helping young mommies!!!
** Valid entries: To be sure we know your entry is valid (and not a spambot!), you’ll need to include some info relevant to the blog post and/or the YM Contest. So if the topic of the post is about a young mom who’s having issues with a baby dad, you can comment something about your own experience with that topic or express your sympathy for the moms going through that situation or at the very least expressing how you enjoyed the post and writing and your hopes for winning the contest.