The blogging mommy is Taylor

July 25th, 2010 . Posted in by Taylor | 1 Comment »

The Blogging Mommy is Taylor (18)

Her Kiddos are Grayson Liam Thomas (9 days)

Her location is Hamilton, ON.

How old are you now and how old are your munchkins?

I was 17 when I got pregnant and 18 when I had him.

If you could describe your child in 3 words what would they be?

Sweet, cuddly and stubborn.

What’s an average day like for you these days?

Wake up at midnight, spend about an half an hour breastfeeding change his bum try and get him to fall back asleep. Do this all over at 3 then 6 then at 9 I feed him change him put him back to sleep and have a shower, get dressed, eat breakfast and then feed again at noon change his bum do my hair and have a nap. At about 3 we’re up to feed and change him again I eat quick and we go for a walk or I do a load of laundry. I try and feed him at around 5:30 so that when my mom gets home from work he can get some grandma snuggle time while I make dinner. I feed again at around 9 while watching tv with my family and go to bed if I can. Then we repeat haha.

If you had a day all to yourself (kid free & lottery financed) how would you spend it?

I would sleep until I couldn’t sleep anymore and then go shopping to get myself some non-maternity clothes.

What would you say your parenting style is like?

I’m still figuring it out haha. But I think I’ll be pretty laid back as long as the rules are followed. I’m worried I’ll be a pushover.

What do you feel you have enough of in life? What do you want more of? Less of?

I definitely have enough love and support in my life. I’d love more security though, Grayson’s father was abusive and I am filing for sole custody but until I get it I’m scared to lose my baby, because of this there is also enormous pressure on me to be perfect. Any little thing I do wrong could be used against me in court, including stopping breastfeeding as long as I’m breastfeeding Grayson has to be in my sole custody because he needs me to live.

How “blended” is your family? Are you still with the dad of your kids? Who has whose last name?

So far our family is unblended, it’s just me and Grayson and Grayson has my mom’s maiden name which I am in the process of changing my last name back to.

What are some of your pet peeves?

My biggest ones lately are strangers thinking it’s okay to touch my baby, I have no idea where their hands have been. The other day some random lady came up to me and kissed my baby I was appalled. And the judgments I get from strangers or when they assume he’s my moms baby even when I’m holding him and I have the post baby ponch. I also hate people who talk with their mouths full and people who over analyze everything.

What are the most unique things about yourself?

I am double jointed in my elbows?

And finally, what’s your writing/blogging style?

Well this is my first attempt, I hope to be honest and for people to learn something from my posts.

Where is my baby?

July 25th, 2010 . Posted in by Alexis | 2 Comments »

In 1 day, 5 hours and 24 min my little baby is going to be two years old! Two years old? Where the hell did that come from? Seriously, I have no clue where the past two years of my life have gone. Looking back on it I’m kind of flabbergasted at how fast it has gone by and how much my life has changed, how much I personally have changed and how much my little boy has grown.

Most of you know about my story, but I’m feeling a bit nostalgic tonight so I’ll share it again… Lucas was born via an emergency c-section at 29 weeks gestation on July 27th 2008, he weighed 1lb 14oz and was a mere 14″ long. He was wisked off to the NICU before I even had a chance to see him. No one thought he was going to survive through the night and I was constantly being told to prepare for the worst. Well, my little fighter made it through the first night and the second and the third and after only ten days he was taken off the vent! Lucas spent the first 3 months of his life in the NICU and the day I brought him home was the second scariest of my life… I was so afraid to even touch him. When I was in the NICU with him there were nurses and doctors around constantly to help me but when I went home I was on my own and I was so afraid that I’d do something wrong or I’d hurt him because he was just so small and frail.

I know you hear this constantly, but the saying is so true that I feel the need to repeat it, having a baby really does change everything… When I found out I was pregnant I was scared about the reactions I was going to recieve, I was afraid I wouldn’t be able to do the things I wanted to do with my life, I didn’t know if I’d be able to do it or if I’d be a good mom. But those feelings were nothing compared to when he was born and the chanllenges that faced us then. It went from will I be a good mom to will my son survive the night, will he be able to grow up like a normal child, will I be able to cope with things if he does have a dissability or sickness? These are things that it would be hard for any mom to have to think about, and they are things that sixteen year old’s shouldn’t ever have to think about… But from the moment he was born these were the constant fears going through my head. I think that even if I had carried him to term I would have probably felt this way, like “am I ready to be completely responsible for the life of another human?”. Having a baby is a scary thing! It’s scary but it’s also the most amazing, wonderful, incredible thing that can happen to a woman.

I seriously never pictured myself at this age having a two year old, or even having a child at all… I was the good girl in the family, the smart and sensible one. I had plans, big plans, and having a baby wasn’t a part of those plans until I was at least 25 and married. But it happened. And if I could go back in time I wouldn do things exactly the same, deadbeat sd and all, because they are the things that gave me Lucas! He is my absolute pride and joy, the reason why I get up in the morning, why I live and breathe. I never imagined that I could feel this way about anyone or anything in my life. Watching my precious little boy grow, learn and explore the world every day is the most amazing gift I could have ever recieved, especially given the fact that I could have so easily lost him.

He has grown so much and so have I. When I had him I was still a scared kid, now I’m a scared adult! Lol. Even after having him I still saw myself as a kid. Yes I was a mom and yes he came first no matter what, but I still thought of myself as a sixteen year old high school student… But I soon realized that my life was a far cry from “normal”. While my friends were worrying about their dates for homecoming, or what party to go to on Friday night after the football game I was worrying about formula and diapers. And in the beggining I kind of resented the fact that I couldn’t do whatever I wanted whenever I wanted anymore. But as time went on I realized that I had soooooo much more than everyone else, I had someone at home who relied on me, who loved me unconditionally, who I got to go home to every night and cuddle with, who could make me smile no matter how rough things were! And of course it wasn’t (and still isn’t) always easy, because with the joys and wonders of motherfood also comes the moments when you just want to curl up in a ball on the floor crying or when you want to rip your hair out… But even with those moments the pros outweigh the cons one thousand times over.

Today Lucas is a crazy, happy, rambuncious, naughty, fun, loving, sweet, amazing little boy. He’s small but absolutely perfect in every way and I look at him every day and I’m so amazed at how far he’s come. I’m amazed at how far we’ve both come really… From a one pound baby to a crazy little boy and from a scared and lonely teenager to a mature, loving mother. I never thought that diapers and tanturms would be my life at 18 years old, but I’d take them any day over not having my baby in my arms!

What led me here…plastic surgery: pre-consultation

July 25th, 2010 . Posted in by Andrea | 3 Comments »

I remember myself at 9 or 10 years old, stick thin, standing in front of the mirror with my swim suit on and water balloons stuffed in the top. Even then I loved just the idea of it. One day I would be showing off my womanly shape that I was certain would come with time. As the years passed and I grew, I began to realized that the voluptuous shape I had been infatuated with would never be my reality, at least not naturally.

Before the birth of my first son I was a small B cup. Nothing tiny, but nothing large either. Right after his birth I was a full D. I was fortunate enough to lose my baby weight very quickly after he was born, and I was left with the figure I had always dreamed of…up untill I stopped nursing of course. This story is also true for what happened with my second son, but once I stopped nursing instead of the B cup I was before, I was left with hardly an A. Looking completely deflated, and certainly not looking like a 20 year old typically would. So there I was again, standing in front the mirror, looking far to similar to 10 years earlier, only this time I wasn’t a child, I was a woman, but I certainly didn’t look like one.

With a life long wish for curves that started before I can remember, and 2 beautiful child later, here I am, three days away from my surgery consultation. I would love to say that I am prepared, but I am honestly very nervous, even after countless late nights of research and conversations with my husband that lasted hours. Don’t get me wrong, I am also incredibly excited. I feel like a child waiting to open presents on Christmas morning, giddy with excitement and anxious to see what is to come.

Blogging Mommy Kayla :)

July 24th, 2010 . Posted in by Kayla | 1 Comment »

The Blogging Mommy is Kayla

Her Kiddos are Jordan Kurtis & Miley Ashley

Her location is Moncton,NB

How old are you now and how old are your munchkins?

I am 22, Jordan is 5 and Miley is 5months :)

If you could describe your child in 3 words what would they be?

Jordan is Smart, Funny, Loving
Miley is Beautiful, cuddly, Loving

What’s an average day like for you these days?

Depends on the weather, Miley can’t use sunscrean yet so we can’t go outside if its too hot which it has been so during the day we usually just chill out watching cartoons,crafts,go shopping,play games, then after Ryan goes to work at 4 we make dinner, eat, and by 6 – 6:30 when it starts to cool down Miley and I sit on the step while Jordy plays at the park in front of the house with a couple little girls who live down the street or if its shady enough I bring Miley to the park too and put her on the swing. Then we come inside, kids get a bath and we watch a movie or something on t.v. and go to sleep until Ryan gets off work and then I wake up again and watch t.v. with him for a bit, then go back to bed.

If you had a day all to yourself (kid free & lottery financed) how would you spend it?

Hmmm…well its been so long since I’ve been totally kid free that I dont even know what I’d do..lol..Definetly Shopping, probably go to a spa, depending on how much money I got from the lottery I would look at houses and if I did have enough to buy one I’d do that and use my shopping trip to also pick out new furniture and decorative things for the house…lol…If not I’d still probably use the shopping trip to redecorate this place..after getting new clothes for all of us and some awsome toys for the kids..lol…

What would you say your parenting style is like?

I’m not sure I really have a style. I kinda just go with the flow. I wouldn’t say I’m “strict” but definetly do not allow Jordan to do half the things the parents around here let their children do. Whatever my style is it must be working because Jordan is polite,well mannered and when it comes to the important rules he listens. He does know how to test my patience and sometimes likes to see how far he can push me but over all he’s a great kid :) & I’m sure Miley will turn out just as great <3 One thing I do not believe in is beating your kids, I do spank Jordan’s bum sometimes if he’s getting really out of hand but most of the time a simple time out and explanation of what he did wrong and why he can’t do it works good for us.

What do you feel you have enough of in life? What do you want more of? Less of?

I feel just by having my two amazing children that I have everything anyone could ask for. I would love for Ryan to spend less time sleeping and more time with the family. I’d also love to have our own house or at least a place in a different neighborhood but as long as I have my children,Ryan, & my family I’m happy :)

How “blended” is your family? Are you still with the dad of your kids? Who has whose last name?

I am not with Jordan’s bio-dad. Since he wasnt around for my pregnancy or the first year and a half of Jordan’s life (besides the birth and maybe 10minutes when he was 2 days old) Jordan has MY last name. I am with Ryan (Miley’s dad) and Miley has his last name. Sometimes I feel bad for Jordan because if Ryan and I get married in the future Jordan will be the only one withought his last name..BUT Jordan thinks its cool that he has the same last name as my brother so I dont think he would care..lol..

What are some of your pet peeves?

hmmm… being interupted while I’m talking, parents who don’t put their children first, when parents let their children run around unsupervised, people who are rude to the elderly & also the elderly who think they can be rude to younger people just because they are old, when adults can’t clean up after themselves and leave nasty messes all over the place right after I’ve cleaned (*cough* Ryan *cough* lol), when people walk all over my house with their shoes on (unless its for a good reason like moving something into the house or out of the house), people who dont have common curtesy, people who stand in the middle of the aisle talking while I’m trying to shop..lol..& I could probably go on but I’ll stop here..lol

What are the most unique things about yourself?

I can do a bendy thing with my fingers that freaks most people out..lol…I’m so complicated sometimes I confuse myself…I’m left handed but can only use scissors with my right hand & I can also write with my right hand (if I go slow almost as good as with my left)…and I can pick things up with my feet..lol…

And finally, what’s your writing/blogging style?

This is my first blog so I’m not sure yet..lol…

The Infamous Baby Fever!

July 22nd, 2010 . Posted in by Carla, vent/rant, women | 3 Comments »

I got it! and baaad!

What is this thing that makes you feel like “you’re missing a child in your life”?? This thing that listens to no reasons… There is this thing, a Monster, we call Baby Fever, and let me tell you, it can eat you up from inside if you let it!  This longing to feel that life inside you… This pull to your stomach every time you see a tinny bitty baby, and that weird feeling when you see a pregnant woman and can’t help thinking “Why can’t that be me?”

Is it an Ego thing?  the empowerment of feeling, of knowing, you are creating something so amazing as A NEW LIFE… but that sounds kind of selfish, doesn’t it?  though this Monster IS selfish, because it doesn’t care if it’s right or wrong, or if it fits into your plans or your lifestyle! it comes at you and takes over anyway!

Is it loneliness?  a void to fill?? I honestly don’t think so! It’s so much deeper than that! It’s like falling in love, you can’t help it, but you *know* when you’ve reached that point… It’s not that you want something more is that you know you are missing something! and it’s a battle of wether or not to go after it! and let me tell you, it isn’t a fair battle at all!

Like I said, the Monster listens to no reasons! it wants what it wants, and won’t settle! You can try to reason with it, to fool it, to ignore it, you can even try to blackmail it! and still, most of the times it will overpower you!.  Now, this doesn’t mean it is automatically a lost battle! because thankfully every Monster has music to sooth it, to put it to sleep, so you can go on about your life, and almost forget about the Monster asleep on your basement! But beware, because when it wakes up again, it’s the same battle all over again! and with this Monster, at least for me, you can win the battle(s) but you won’t win the war!

and then, who can you talk to about it? There are always the ones who’ll think you are insane! who will tell you that your life is perfect just as it is, and to wait for X and X first… and then X may or may not come, and X becomes Y and becomes Z, cause there will never be a “perfect time” to have a baby come a give a 180° turn to your “perfect life” (if you’re so lucky to have such thing!)… and then of course there are the ones who “support” you, and get all excited with you, and say that you can do it! (just like they do) but they are not in your shoes, are they?  they don’t know that deep down what you really want is to be talked out of it, because you know in your head that you really DO NEED your X,Y and Z first!

This is a hard Monster to fight off! Specially when it attacks you at a young age! Thankfully you don’t have to fight it off forever, one way or the other the time will come for you to surrender to It, and you know it, and that’s what I keep telling myself… and it will be sooo worth it in the end!! You won! You get your Reward! Enjoy your Prize!!

… until the Monster strikes again!

Alexis

July 21st, 2010 . Posted in by Alexis | 1 Comment »
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The Blogging Mommy is Alexis (18)

Her Kiddos are Lucas William (2)

Her location is Boston, Ma.

How old are you now and how old are your munchkins?

I had Lucas 3 months after my 16th birthday, and I’m 18 now. Lucas turns 2 on July 27th!

If you could describe your child in 3 words what would they be?

Crazy, Energetic, Loving

What’s an average day like for you these days?

Every day is different during the summer, it all depends on if and when I have to work, what our plans for the day are, etc. Lucas usually wakes me up by crawling into bed with me around 6:30-7am, we cuddle for a while and watch Einsteins or Mickey, then we get up around 8 and have breakfast, but after that we have no typical day! We try to spend as much time as possible outside, either by the pool or at the park…

If you had a day all to yourself (kid free & lottery financed) how would you spend it?

I’d sleep in (sleeping “late” for me is like 8:30) and then I’d go out for breakfast with a bunch of family and friends. Then I’d take my mom, sisters, and a few of my cousins and friends to a spa for a few hours of pampering and girl talk. After that would be a shopping trip where I actually buy something for myself (although I’d probably end up buying a ton of stuff for Lucas too…) And then I’d meet up with Dave for a nice dinner at one of my favorite restaurants, followed by a concert!

What would you say your parenting style is like?

I think I’m pretty laid back, but I also make sure my child is disciplined when he needs to be. I’m very loving and affectionate, but I also want Lucas to know that I’m in charge. I respect him and expect to be respected in return. I try not to yell and be too overbearing, but sometimes I do come accross that way, Lucas just seems to know how to perfectly push my buttons, but it’s something I’m working on…

What do you feel you have enough of in life? What do you want more of? Less of?

I have an amazing support system behind me. My parents are my twin pillars and without them I would be so lost. And my siblings are my best friends. I would definitely say that I have enough love and laughter in my life. I can’t think of anything I could want more or less of…

How “blended” is your family? Are you still with the dad of your kids? Who has whose last name?

I am not with Lucas’s father, when I told him I was pregnant he made it very clear that he wanted nothing to do with either of us, and except for one random phone call a few months back, I haven’t heard from him or seen him since that day… Lucas has my last name.

What are some of your pet peeves?

I have quite a few of these… 1. Stupid, ignorant people, especially ones who think young mothers are bad mothers because of their age… 2. Bad drivers 3. Not replacing the roll of toilet paper after finishing the last one 4. People who chew with their mouthes open 5. People who talk during movies/TV shows. I hate missing something because people were talking…

What are the most unique things about yourself?

I don’t think I’m like most other 18 year old girls. And I’m not talking just about the fact that I have a 2 year old… I have never been into the things girls my age have liked, I never got into pop music, I always liked classic rock… I never got into the fads and I’m not into fashion. I have always gone to the beat of a different drum I guess. I always tell people that I should have been born in the 60’s… I’m just an old soul and I think I’m way more mature than most other people my age…

And finally, what’s your writing/blogging style?

I’ve never actually written a blog before, so I’m coming into this whole thing blind… I have always enjoyed writing though, so I’m going to give it a shot!

Hello Everyone!

July 20th, 2010 . Posted in by Carla | 1 Comment »

The Blogging Mommy is… - Carla D’ Pace

Her Kiddos are… – beautiful step daughter Victoria

Her location is… – Surrey, Great Britain

How old are you now and how old are your munchkins? – I’m 22 years old, and Tori is 2

If you could describe your child in 3 words what would they be? – Smart, sweet, & a little clingy lol!

What’s an average day like for you these days?  – Well I work full time, so we get up and get going for the day at 5am, get dressed and have breakfast. I’m out the door at 5:45am and Tori and daddy finish getting ready and leave around 6:15am. I get off work around 5:00, pick up Victoria from daycare and we usually get home around 5:30pm, have dinner, play together and then bath and bed time at 8.

Weekends are much more fun and games though!

 
If you had a day all to yourself (kid free & lottery financed) how would you spend it? – Shopping! lol! then Dinner at a expensive restaurant with my sweetheart and cath a cool theatre play

What would you say your parenting style is like? – pretty relaxed I think. But there are areas I feel really strongly about, specially when it comes to health and development, and I’m pretty strict on those!

What do you feel you have enough of in life? What do you want more of? Less of?  – I have enough problems! lol! Now really, I have a lot of blessings in my life including my wondeful family and the fact that I feel I have achieved all my life goals so far (like career wise), and I’m very lucky to say we don’t lack anything material at least.

I would luuuv more time! I swear I need like 28 hours in one day to get everything done! . and I would like less “ex’s” drama! blah…

How “blended” is your family? Are you still with the dad of your kids? Who has whose last name? – We are a blended family, I don’t have any biological children yet, and Tori’s from Phillip’s first marriage. She’s with us 50% of the time, and in the last year our relationship has changed and grown like you wouldn’t believe! We went from almost completely strangers to great friends! (Thank goodness!) and DF likes that I’m actively involved with Victoria, and that just makes it so much greater! though it wasn’t easy at first to find my place there, trust me!

What are some of your pet peeves? – #1 it’s bad drivers! Jesus! another big one would be rude ppl in general.

What are the most unique things about yourself? – I’m a pretty open minded person, and I’m willing to try almost anything and everything in life! I’m also very loyal, and I’m proud of that!

I’m the most EMOTIONAL woman you’ll ever meet! I’m not sure that’s quite “unique” but I guess it’s a big part of what makes me, well ME! I’m also very romantic when I want to be, but that’s not too often hahaha.

And finally, what’s your writing/blogging style?  – hmmm IDK, this if my first time blogging, so you tell me!

YM Blogs Contest!

July 19th, 2010 . Posted in YoungMommies.com, blogging/internet, by Kris, teen pregnancy & parenting | 1 Comment »
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I’m happy to announce our first contest here on YoungMommies.com! Who knew it would take 10 years, I guess we are behind the curve and just focused on hanging out together more than promoting our site. But we gotta get some energy and publicity infused, so here we go! :)

This contest is the first of 12 great monthly contests, the first prize of each one being a brand new copy of “What to Expect When You’re Expecting”!

Summer Fun Prize Pack for the YoungMommies.com contest!

We’ll choose a different runner-up prize as well for some contest. This month’s runner up is a fun Summer Prize Pack, including a pack of inflatable beach balls, a portable cloth bag (with a little Canadian pride, whether you live here or not, I figure it’s a fun extra!), a couple packs of Trident fruit layers gum, and a lightweight kids’ stainless steel water bottle to tote to and from the beach and other summer activities.

Summer Fun Prize Pack for the YoungMommies.com contest!

This month’s contest will be all about the YM Blogs and getting them rolling again. We have some new mommies joining us as Authors and will have some new posts up for you to comment on. The Contest will be open to both Authors AND commenters, so if you’re interested in becoming a contributor to the Blogs, you can find out how on the YMBoards (register to become a member). The only requirement is that you be a young/teen mom or young/teen mom-to-b*e!

The contest will run for one month. So please make sure you add your posts and make your comments before the end of the day on Thursday August 19th. On the 20th, we’ll draw the names of both the winners. One of the winners will be chosen based on the number of entries (both posts on the Blogs and comments combined) and the other winner will be chosen randomly from the number of valid entries**.

Please let all the young moms you know about this contest, as it’s open to any young mom, NOT just the ones that are already members of the site! :)

See below for definitions of who may enter and what is considered a valid entry and enjoy the contest!!!

* Contest participants: You must must MUST be a young/teen mom or young/teen mommy to be. If you’re not already a member of the YM Boards and/or you haven’t posted a Salute, you’ll need to do so to show that you’re in fact who you say you are. I’m sorry for this extra loophole but I don’t want just anyone to be able to crash the contest and defeat the entire purpose of our site which is helping young mommies!!!

** Valid entries: To be sure we know your entry is valid (and not a spambot!), you’ll need to include some info relevant to the blog post and/or the YM Contest. So if the topic of the post is about a young mom who’s having issues with a baby dad, you can comment something about your own experience with that topic or express your sympathy for the moms going through that situation or at the very least expressing how you enjoyed the post and writing and your hopes for winning the contest.

Laundry Avalanche

February 16th, 2010 . Posted in by Sarah, day-to-day life | No Comments »

          So I have to admit that lately as far as laundry goes; I have not been doing my job. I don’t have a laundry room and often fold the laundry and sort it on the couch while watching tv. Unfortunately sometimes what is on becomes more interesting than trying to find the second green sock with orange toes and I lose interest. My husband is becoming increasingly frustrated as the laundry takes over the living room. For some reason I don’t mind washing and drying the clothes just the folding, sorting, and putting away part. I have clothes on our blanket box, the chair no one sits in, the coffee table, 2 laundry baskets full and ok yes even in the chair the kids sit in. This morning I tried to gather the courage to tackle the laundry but as I went to lift the first t-shirt the laundry fell all over me. Now at 10:00 am like a coward I am here blogging about the laundry rather than facing it. I really need to catch up so i can start going through our summer stuff to pack for our trip but I can’t seem to find the motivation.

            Okay I think I am ready, I have gathered the courage. Well and it also helps that anyone following this knows my dirty secret and so I feel the pressure to do it. Ha, well whatever works right? Wish me luck! if I am not back in a few days I am dead and burried under the laundry of the four boys in my life!

Rabbits anyone?

February 11th, 2010 . Posted in by Sarah, day-to-day life | No Comments »

About a month before my youngest was born my 2 year old rabbit suddenly died. I decided a few months later that I was ready to get a new bunny so that is what I asked “Santa” for. Jasper arrived a week before Christmas and I fell in love. So last week my husband calls me and asks if I want another rabbit because his friend is giving hers away. I was excited to take her because once Jasper is neutered he will have a friend. My husband came home last night and asked if I wanted another rabbit because another buddy of his took from a friend that didn’t want their rabbit anymore figuring I would want it.  Pretty sad this one doesn’t even have a name and they don’t know the gender. So in the last month and a half I went from zero  to three rabbits. I think I will have to build a rabbit hutch this spring.

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