YMBlogs ~ young mommies' voices!

So as you all know I am married to David. Now, for some people when you have children that is what you are; a mom. Some people forget that they are wives, or significant others as well. So I have decided to write about how I feel as a wife and how I feel things have changed. I have been married to David for 3 years as of April 10th. When we first met in 2008 he was so affectionate. He wanted to sit next to me and cuddle. I would get compliments on my eyes or how nice I looked. I could lay down with him and watch a movie. Nowadays I have to go up and hug and kiss him; I have to ask if I can lay on the couch with him and then I have to hear him complain (he says its a joke) and be uncomfortable; if I dress up or do my hair and make up just to do it I get asked why I did it not get told how nice I look; I never hear how nice my eyes are or any type of compliments. What I am trying to say is that I miss the new relationship feeling and everything that comes with it. I do not know what to do about this. I keep telling David he is not very affectionate. I keep asking David to be nicer and/or more affectionate. I get none of this. I do not think he understands that I am serious. I just do not know how to tell him I want the new relationship feeling when we are not in a new relationship. I do not want him to think that I want to be in a new different relationship. I just feel so lost and alone right now. I never thought I would feel so alone being married. What to do? I am writing this to reach out to other married mothers or mothers in serious relationships. How do you balance your relationship and children? How do you keep the romance alive with children? It is like ever since we had children it is no big deal to be affectionate. It makes me sad.