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pizza down the pants

February 5th, 2009 . Posted in by Lisa, day-to-day life, teen pregnancy & parenting | 1 Comment »

I remember baby sitting and actually being bored because the brother and sister I baby sat where so good, they never fought and behaved perfectly and as a kid myself back then I thought it was farely normal. Now as an adult and a mom of two now I am wondering if the mother of those children who are now teenagers has any of her majic potion left and if she is willing to sell it.

I am two of the most wonderful boys in the world but man between the “stories” and sleepless nights they can deffintily give other kids a run for there money.

Brennan is like a super baby, he never stops he go go gos, he power naps which is excellent for him but doesn’t give mama much time for a break. He also nurses at night every 1-2 hrs  at first I thought it was a growth spurt but a 3 months long growth spurt is not too likely, I think it is more of a case of having me rapped around his little finger 😀

Now Riley my dear dear boy has clearly mastered a few arts, His curent passion is sneaking, he is 4 so I assume this is a normal phase if he doesn’t get his way or what he wants he will take it for himself. I could go on for days about the different things he has snuck but I will just give the highlights He tries his pockets sleeves even socks with whatever he can get his little hands on, pudding, cookies, chocolate and I hear you, you say silly woman keep it out of reach or out of the house, well it is not the things he sneaks that he cares about because the list goes on, an entire loaf of rasin bread (he hates rasins), yogurt,  cheese, fruit, random canned goods, oh and the big show stopper was last weeks pizza in the underwear I was honestly speach less and didn’t know what I should or could say all that came out of my mouth was “seriously? seriously? ” . Had he actually planned on eating his newly snuck undie pizza? .  I guess I am just happy I caught him 90
% of the time , And prevented the consumption of these scromptios and not so scrumptios finds.

that is the first chapter of our exciting and ever so eventful life at the Mclean house. Sorry it took so long.

 

Lisa

Oops or not, we love them dearly!

December 19th, 2008 . Posted in by Kris, teen pregnancy & parenting | No Comments »
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Out of my 5 pregnancies, only the last one was really “planned” (and it was so difficult to get and stay pregnant that the experience was all-consuming for over a year!) . The two before that were kind of “let’s see what happens” and the 2nd one was an “I would like a baby at some point so I’m choosing not to use birth control” and the 1st one was a birth control failure.

Do I love my kids any differently? No, I love them both. Actually I feel I even have a bit of a stronger bond with my daughter (my first) because I was a single mom with her for 2 years and we were all each other had for that first little while. We went through a lot together and we’ve come a long way.

Expressing this to my daughter, now entering her preteen years, is a different matter though!

She has started pulling the “You didn’t even want me, I was an accident” card and as much as I try to reassure her that I am glad I had her, I don’t want to lie.

It’s true, I did take pills specifically for the sole purpose of preventing her existence! I can’t deny that. I can’t pretend that at 17 years old, I said to myself “Hey, a baby would be great right now!” But that doesn’t mean I love her any less now that she’s here! In fact, I’ve really empathized to her that she must have been “meant to be”.

My daughter has changed my life in so many ways, and mostly for the better. I still went to university, even if it was a year late. I still started off a good career. I still found a spouse I fell in love with and wanted to spend the rest of my life with and who accepted her as a child of his own with no biological ties.

And I’ve tried expressing to her that without being made a mommy at 18, I would have never created YoungMommies.com and helped any of those women who have come to the site and groups for support. Her reply was “well, someone else would have made it” and I’m sure that’s true, but it wouldn’t be the same.

Once I decided for sure that I did NOT want to have an abortion, I made a full commitment to be the best parent I could be. And I’ve loved her like crazy even before she was born.

And I hope that even though right now she feels less wanted because of how she came to be, that she understands someday how much she was needed and how much she was loved.

Meet the bloggers: Mandi

December 1st, 2008 . Posted in by Mandi, Links on YM, Meet the Mommy, teen pregnancy & parenting | No Comments »

Blogging Mommy is… Mandi
Her kiddo(s) is/are… Braxton and Kolden
Her location is… Ontario Canada

How old are you now and how old is/are your munchkin(s)?

I’m 22 (July 4th 1986) Braxton is 3 and a half (April 5th 2005) and Kolden is 1 and a half (April 17th 2007)

If you could describe your child in 3 words, what would they be?

Braxton : Relaxed, funny and sweet

Kolden: Wild, cheeky, and loving

What’s an average day like for you these days?

Well I work from home doing child care and selling avon. I do this so that I am able to be at home with my children and to me thatsthe most important to me. An average day for us is me getting up around 6am to do a work out before the boys get up. Once there up our morning is filled with some nice relaxing time, while I try and get some work done either with avon stuff or computer stuff. Then afternoons are usually when we do our activities and crafts which we do a lot of. The days just kind of flows from there.

If you had a day all to yourself (kid-free & lottery-financed), how would you spend it?

Probably a day at the spa followed by some shopping and then a night out with my girls!!

What would you say your parenting style is like?

I try to use more positive reinforcements, however with two toddlers in our house we do have a lot of time outs, it’s just a way of life haha. My over all goal with the boys is to raise them to be great men and fathers!

What do you feel you have enough of in life? What do you want more of? Less of?

I’m pretty happy with my life right now. I mean ofcourse we could always have more money hahaha but were still young and starting out. Financially right now everything is ok, but it would be nice that in the future we could have more money to be able to do more things with the boys.

Another baby some day is in the cards, not any time soon. The boys keep me busy enough and plus after having two unplanned pregnancies it would be nice to be married some day and have it come then.

How “blended” is your family? Are you still with the dad(s) of your kid(s)? Who has whose last name in the family?

My family is VERY blended. I am the birth mother to both of my children, however they have different birth fathers and neither of them are involved in their life’s. Braxtons dad and I dated all through out highschool but when I became pregnant at 18 he left us and we havent seen him since Braxton was about 9 months old. Koldens dad and I only dated for a short time, but ended our relationship when I was around 10 weeks pregnant because he was very controlling. Like Braxtons dad he isn’t involved in his life. We are however very lucky to have my boyfriend Jay in our lives. Jay and I have been good friends for over 5 years and began our relationship a year ago. He’s the “dad” in my boys lifes and were very happy!

The boys both have my last name, and when Jay and I get married were hopping to work something out with hyphenated names… some how lol

What are some of your big pet peeves?

big pet peeves, hummmm. I don’t really know… I guess it’s when people try and stereotype people. That really bothers me!! 

What are the most unique things about yourself?

Oh wow, well I don’t know whats unique about myself… I mean I know I’m not cut from any cookie cutter. Well hummm I’m not even supposed to be alive haha. When I was born the doctors told my parents they gave me a year to live since I had so many complications and I’m still here today and very healthy!!!

And finally, what’s your writing/blogging history and style?

I’ve blogged before, pretty much on and off since I was pregnant with Braxton. I stick to everyday life as well as my weight loss path. So if your a young mommie from a VERY blended family, have toddlers or like me trying to get your body back I hope I can entertain/inform you!!

welcome! :)

November 28th, 2008 . Posted in education, Links on YM, teen pregnancy & parenting | No Comments »
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Welcome to the YM blogs…

Society seems to have a lot to say about teen pregnancy and young moms. Well guess what? We have some things we’d like to say back!

We’re more than a stereotype. Young moms can be great moms. We’re intelligent, we love our kids and want the best for them! We’re motivated to finish our educations. We’re responsible and can manage a home with amazing efficiency. We may come from all backgrounds and walks of life, but aren’t limited to stay in them. We have the potential to mobilize our resources and become anything we want to be.

The YM blogs will start out as a collective blog with several authors. Some of us are younger, some are older. Some of us are American and some are Canadian.  Some of us have partners and others are single moms. What we all have in common is that we are proud young mommies and we support each other!

We welcome comments and discussion in the YM Blogs, but please remember the YM Community Guidelines apply here as they do in any discussion area of the site (boards, groups, chats, etc.).

~Kris
28-yr-old married mom of 2 from Ottawa, ON

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